It never ceases to amaze me the phenomenon of conflicting public opinion. It is well documented in politics where people state that they want one thing and vote for the exact opposite and there is no clear reason as to why. In the complex arena of family planning, women are given mixed messages everywhere they turn, doctors, society, their friends, their family.
Mixed Message No. 1: don’t wait too long to have babies! You never know when your eggs are going to go kaput! And, remember society begins to lose empathy with women who put off child bearing until their late 30s because – oh the horror – they wanted a career and end up having trouble getting pregnant. (Need to rent a uterus? You shouldn’t have waited!)
Mixed Message No. 2: what do you mean you’re 25 and trying to get pregnant?! You should get your career started or you’ll be stuck at home with wailing babies and the entire workforce will pass you by! This mixed message was amply demonstrated in a Washington Post article yesterday about women who have careers but are having their children in their 20’s. The girls were being villified by their friends and society in general.
In the end, the only message to listen to is your own. Women should start trying to have a baby when they are ready, not when society tells them that they should. And it is nothing more than Monday morning quarterbacking to say that someone should have done things differently.