Isn’t it uncanny that most truly nasty words in the English language – yes, “those” words – are all four-letter words? With the exception of ‘ass’, I can’t think of one that we use that in its base form isn’t just a plain four-letter word. Maybe it’s just a co-ink-i-dink, maybe it was planned that way so that someone could generally sweep them all under the category of Those Four Letter Words, maybe it was for expediency so that even the most illiterate could understand and use them. Who the hell (See? Another one!) knows. In any case, I have some new ones that I would like to add to the list. These are the four-letter words associated with infertility:
‘Want’ is probably one of the first words that children learn (not that I have personal experience with this one – and my mother cannot remember what my first word was, so I can’t even use myself as an example. Foiled!) ‘Envy’ has gotten a bit of a bad rap what with being one of the Seven Deadly Sins and all. ‘Fair’ is taught in schools as the bellweather of behavior. And ‘hope’, well, hope is tarted about everywhere from stationary to jewelry and has been reduced to a platitude that makes people feel better.
Each of these words has taken on new meaning in the context of infertility and has a new definition. I had started out just writing a post about why I had this problem with wanting and envying and then I realized that what I was writing was actually multiple posts about the words that we hear and that we use to describe or justify what we’re going through. So, over the next several weeks, I will write a post about each word and how it is now a four-letter word when it comes to infertility.
Are there any four-letter words that you would like to add?
*Updated* I thought of another one while reading comments to someone who just suffered a loss: LUCK.