As I said before, I’ve been giving some thought to the idea of finding me a new Dr. Uterus. This last visit was just such a terrible experience – and the terribleness of it wasn’t even really related to the actual purpose of why I was there. It was all of the extraneous bullshit and clueless staff. This isn’t the first time that I’ve had to deal with it, but it was a culmination of all of the crappy visits I’ve had.
The thing is that, with a few notable exceptions, Dr. Uterus is wonderful. I read horror stories of other REs and I shudder at their callousness and aloofness. Dr. Uterus is neither callous nor aloof. He takes all the time I need to answer whatever question I have and to comfort me when I need that little extra assurance. He has the utmost confidence that we will eventually be successful. I know that he truly wants us to reach our goal and will do anything within his power to help us there. And, that is a powerful draw to keep me there.
But, I honestly question whether he has any understanding of what it means emotionally be a woman dealing with infertility. Because, if he did, I think he would run his practice a lot differently. I think this is particularly so when you consider that reproductive endocronology is usually not covered by insurance and couples and individuals are paying out of pocket. Wouldn’t you make yourself stand out from all of the other doctors who are offering these kinds of services? Wouldn’t you make it as stressless as possible for those women who need to seek out your services?
If that is the case, then why would you make your infertility patients sit with all of the pregnant ladies for your partner, the high risk OB? I don’t begrudge him the fact that she probably hauls in a lot of dough, but is it too much to ask to let us who are dealing with infertility access the office through a separate, infertility entrance? And, while we’re at it, how about completely segregating your office space from the high risk OB so that I don’t have to see the 3-D ultrasounds of the squished up babies on my way out to pay for the pleasure of the dildocam? I mean, really. Is that necessary? And, don’t even get me started on when people bring their children in.
I will be the first to admit that I’m no doctor. I don’t have the slightest clue about how to make a practice profitable and successful. But, I have been an infertility patient for 2 years now with Dr. Uterus and I’ve been to that office so many times that my feet know the exact pattern to walk on the floor and I can predict the size of my follicles on the screen. In other words, I know what would make my experience at that office good and what will make it bad. And I know that even though I’ve been making comments about it to Nurse to a T, none of it has changed.
The thing is, I have this sinking feeling that if I were to bring these concerns to Dr. Uterus directly, I don’t think that he would give them much consideration. Which brings me right back to where I started: after all of these years treating women with infertility, hasn’t he seen enough to know how not to make an experience for someone dealing with infertility? Or, is it not a big enough of a deal for him to do something?
Maybe I should make it a big enough deal.
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