Free To A Good Home

I’m a registered organ donor.  I’m a registered marrow donor.  I give blood.  I’ve considered being a kidney donor.  If I can help someone else by donating something that I have that they need, I’ll do it.

But, when it came to the question of whether to donate our remaining frozen embryo, I was initially dead set against it.  I couldn’t bear the thought of our potential child being out there without me knowing about it.  I never thought of my embyros as children when we were going through IVF, but now that one of those embryos actually became my child, I can see the potential for this final embryo to actually become a child. The thought of that child being out there in the world not knowing who we are and we not knowing it was not acceptable to me.

Thing was that Mr. X and I both knew that we would not be using it.  The main reason is that there is just one and we did not want to go through all of the procedures for a FET with just one embryo.  And, we did not want to do any more invasive procedures to have another child.  Once we had Rex, I was pretty certain that I didn’t want any more children.

That left the question of what to do with this last totsicle.  Mr. X first raised donating it to an infertile couple.  I rejected this, multiple times, but he was his usual kind and patient self, letting me get to my own conclusions on my own time.

Then, a friend needed embryos.  All of a sudden, I wanted to give her that totsicle.  Because I knew that she and her husband would give that child, if there was a child, a wonderful home. I would also know how the child was doing and growing.  In the end, my friend ended up not taking our totsicle.  But, by then, embryo donation became a much more viable and feasible option for me.  I did a little research and learned that there was such a thing as open embryo adoption.  I knew that I could do that.

I have no qualms about our potential child being raised by someone else.   As long as I can pick the family and know in my heart that the child will be raised with love and stability.  We’d love to be able to keep in touch, particularly so that Rex can meet his brother or sister.  But mainly to see how they are doing in this great wide world of ours.

Grace in Small Things 1/22/2011

Absolutely wonderful day. Here’s what made me happy:

  1. Birds singing this morning and the sun streaming through the windows illuminating the dog fur floating in the air warming everything up.
  2. Went to the Botanical Gardens with Mr. X, Rex, G and Grandma.  Rex got to see all kinds of pooches, G got to sniff many butts and we had a lovely time walking around in the lovely weather.
  3. Two! Great! Naps! for Rex.
  4. Caught up with neighbors and enjoyed watching their almost 2.5 year old.
  5. Booked our cruise for our adults-only trip in April.  So excited!

Onwards and upwards, always.

Grace in Small Things 1/21/2011

Things that made me happy today:

  1. Went with Mr. X to pick up Rex from day care.  We found him at the door looking out and he gave us the biggest grin because he was so happy to see us.  We were very happy to see him.
  2. Finally got to see the premiere of Big Love.  Oh, those wacky polygamists.  Everyone is so upset that they came out of the polygamy closet.   I’m more upset that they are all whining about it.  So what if some people choose to have more than one wife.  Just don’t make me be a plural wife. I would so not do well being ‘lead’ by my husband.
  3. Shoulder continues to feel better. I was even able to pick up Rex without too much pain.
  4. Helped Rex walk 7 steps – I counted out loud for him.  And then he decided it was time to plop down.  We were also super impressed with how easily he was able to pull himself up on the ottoman in the living room.  Only a matter of time, methinks, before we have a walker.
  5. I was really touched to see the video of all of the people in Tuscon lining up along the street to watch the ambulance carrying Gabrielle Giffords.   It was so wonderful to see such support for her.

Onwards and upwards, always.

Grace in Small Things 1/20/2011

Good day.

  1. Had an x-ray done of my sinuses to try to figure out why my right ear has been basically clogged up for 5 years.  This was a fancy machine – instead of the usual x-ray machine, this was one of those where you are on the moving table and the ring goes around you. I almost fell asleep.
  2. Won $4 at Bunco.  It was because I had the most losses, but hey, I recouped my $3 and made a buck.  Got to catch up with neighbors and shamelessly show off the latest Rex picture on my phone.
  3. Walked with Rex through the house.  He’s getting better and better at knowing to moving his feet, one at a time.  Granted, he still does it peg-leg style with no bending at the knee, but it’s still super cute.
  4. My shoulder is feeling better.  It *almost* doesn’t hurt to take a deep breath now.
  5. Friends just had a new baby (their third) and I wasn’t the least bit jealous. Just very happy for them.

Onwards and upwards, always.

Grace in Small Things 1/19/2011

Meh kind of day.

  1. Walked 2 miles this morning.  So invigorating and needed.  It also allowed me to indulge in my guilty pleasure of checking out everyone’s garbage and recycling since it’s that day of the week.
  2. Pancetta for dinner.
  3. Wednesday is bath day for Rex and he had a fabulous time, as usual.  We have baths down to an exact science these days. I do most of the bathing but Mr. X will hold Rex up so that I can wash Rex’s underparts.  We call this portion “Riverdance” because Rex does the riverdance. Every single time.  It is really hard to wash a riverdancing baby, but oh so fun.
  4. Invitation to brunch this weekend from a good friend. Very excited to share the time with her family and ours.
  5. Taking it easy this evening because my shoulder is killing me.  I must have overdone it bringing in the groceries earlier, but it does force me to just be for a while.  Hopefully it will feel better tomorrow.

Onwards and upwards, always.

Grace in Small Things 1/18/2011

Gorgeous day!

  1. Mr. X and I submitted our application to  the National Embryo Donation Center to donate our last totsicle to an infertile couple.  It feels like the absolutely right thing to do.
  2. Chocolate chip cookies. YUM.
  3. Watching mindless television with Mr. X.
  4. Wore my blingy flats and it felt so good. Finally, a day that doesn’t require socks.
  5. Magical time with Rex this evening.  Just magical.

Onwards and upwards, always.

10. Months. Old.

We have double digits, people.  Rex is 10 months old.  Babies who were not even conceived when he was born have completely gestated and joined the world.  The seasons have changed and changed  back again.  And, Mr. X and I have been doing this parenting thing for a little over 300 days.  We have all grown so much since then.  But Rex’s statistics of growth are so much more interesting than ours. So, here they are.

Physical:

The boy is gargantuan.  He is larger than the 14 month olds in his day care class and has been mistaken for a one year old for a few months now.  But, he’s proportional and super strong.  He can pull small lamps off of tables with no difficulty.  And watch out if he has it in his head to pull on your scarf while its on your neck.  Learned that one the hard way last week. Oof.

He has a beautiful head of blonde hair and will soon need to be trimmed because it can get in his gorgeous large blue eyes.  He has two teeth, both on the bottom, one still not quite in yet.  We can hear him using them when crunching Baby Mum Mum’s.

He’s now wearing little shoes during the day to help give him traction as he is pulling up on things and thinking about cruzing the furniture.  He’s begun to practice walk with Grandpa as well as Mr. X and I.  So cute.

Verbal:

Rex has discovered his voice and loves to trill up through the various registers.  He is also learning the art of the grunt as well as the whine.  Crying is no longer just for when he is hurt or hungry.  It’s for when mommy takes away his blue bucket in the bathtub or takes away a treasured, but totally dangerous toy.

‘Mama’s’ and ‘dada’s’ are par for the course and we are pretty certain that he has said Dada at Mr. X and meant it.  It also sounded like he said, “Hey you” to the cat the other day, but we could just be hearing things. Or my child could just be a genius. Guess which one I’m leaning toward?

We are actively pointing at things with him and saying their names.  He’s beginning to point at the dog and saying a ‘duh’ sound.  Maybe, as in “Duh! It’s a dog, lady. Everyone knows that!”

Food:

We are week four into Operation Substitute Food for Simicrack and so far so good. We’ve been slowly reducing his formula intake for greater intakes of finger foods and strained foods.  He’s getting more insistent about feeding himself which is fun to watch, since half of the food ends up in his lap or on the floor.

He’s a champ with the sippy cup and loves to bang it on the high chair for maximum noise effect.

Sleep:

Daycare is reporting that naps are getting harder and harder for him.  He’s just so darned excited about everything, all the things to do, the people to see the things to try.  I can’t say I blame him.  The good news is that we don’t have much difficulty with naps at home on the weekends, so we suspect that it is a daycare thing, not a nap crisis thing.

We are all getting good long, rest in the evenings.  I will say no more lest I jinx it to hell.

We’re already planning Rex’s 1-year birthday bash.  Mind you, this party is about 80% for us and 20% for him.  The theme: He Thrived, We Survived.  There will be alcohol.

Grace in Small Things 1/17/2011

Sunny day!

  1. Rex turned 10 months old today. Double digits, people!!!
  2. The sun actually came out. I squinted when I went outside, it was so bright.
  3. New outdoor lights are fabulous and new fixture in kitchen is amazing. Why, oh why did I not do this sooner? Now, if I could only convince Mr. X that we NEED to paint the kitchen and get new countertops.
  4. Mah-Jongg.  Wonderful way to pass a Monday evening.
  5. Planning vacation with Mr. X this April. We’re thinking Puerto Rico with a cruise in the Carribbean.  Soooo excited.

Onwards and upwards, always.

Grace in Small Things 1/16/2011

Nasty weather finally beginning to lift.

  1. Woke up to Rex crying this morning, which is unusual for him.  I went in and got him out of his sleep sack but he was still wailing, so I put him up to my chest and rocked him in our chair and he fell asleep again.  It was so peaceful and sweet.  And then he woke up and was his usual happy self.
  2. Good morning naps all around. For me and for Rex.  There’s a nap for that.
  3. House smelled divine from Crockpot Experiment #2, chicken with Pancetta, herbs and peas.  It tasted even better.
  4. Watching my dad play with Rex.   These are the moments that I waited so long for and they were so worth it.
  5. Had a good home visit with a prospective adoptive family for the Golden Retriever rescue organization that gave us G.  Bonus- Mr. X had margaritas ready when I got home!

Onwards and upwards, always.

Grace in Small Things 1/15/2011

The nasty weather continues. Still holding out hope for Monday.

  1. Date night! I swear Mr. X and I have more dates now than we did in the last 5 years of our marriage.  I’m not complaining one bit.
  2. Saw True Grit.  I was not particularly interested, but it was very, very good.  I spent a great deal of the film admiring the beautiful horses.  I love horses.
  3. Rex is pulling himself up on to furniture more and more.  We cheer him each time he does it.
  4. I laughed so hard at dinner that my stomach hurt.  I love that.
  5. I had the time AND the inclination to shave my legs.  Amazing.

Onwards and upwards, always.